Not Easily Broken

Tonight we went to the movie, "Not Easily Broken". It is a fabulous movie. The theme is to make God the third cord with the husband and wife in a marriage. It has a good story line, and a good message. It would not be for children, since there are some references to sex in the marriage context. It shows how a couple can make marriage and respect for one another a priority in life.

A Good Relationship Requires Time

When Bev and I got married we were in full time Christian Minsitry. This can drain you emotionally, physically, and relationally. We started right away to having our relationship be a priority in our life.

The first year of marriage we chose to live 15 minutes away from the college campus where we worked. The physical distance made our free time, more of our own. We worked what was required, but gave emphasis to the development of our marriage.

We chose not to have a TV the first year of marriage (due to my weakness of becoming the TV when I watched). We read the Chronicles of Narnia together. We played tennis. We just had a great first year.

After that we moved 5 minutes from campus. We loved having the students in our home. We had gotten our relationship strong so we could really enjoy the students.

At different times in marriage we were creative with finding the time to be together. During seminary in California we walked together in front of our townhouse at 5am. Yearly we tried to get away on a planning weekend to think through our life together, and just have some fun. The specifics have always changed but the principle is the same.

"Make time to be together in communication."